Sex toys, vibrators, lubes and more: Our how-to on choosing what suits your body

Sex toys, vibrators, lubes and more: Our how-to on choosing what suits your body

Love oral sex? There's a sex toy just for you. Prefer deep internal stimulation? We've got vibrators for that too. Want both internal and external stimulation while allowing a partner to control your pleasure remotely via an app? You guessed it... We've got it. 
Investing in your pleasure can be incredibly rewarding but, as with all things sex and desire, everyone is different so it's really important to choose the right product for your needs. After all, what feels like a light tickle for one person might feel earth-shattering good for another. 
In this guide, we've included the products we love the most, organised by their most salient function, so you can choose which best suit your body and your needs.
 

TOYS FOR EXTERNAL STIMULATION

The Wand Massager
Think of this as the little black dress of your sex toy collection - a reliable classic that's right for pretty much any occasion.
The Doxy Wand is a cult-favourite (and for good reason too!) channelling out deep, rumbling vibrations through a soft, expansive and cushioned silicone head, resulting in sensations that penetrate deep into your body. If you're into strong stimulation or you want a vibrator that covers a large area, then Wand Massagers are the way to go (they're also great to use with a partner - if you're moving around, they still allow you to hit the right spot!. If you're not so keen on a plug in vibe or prefer something a bit lighter weight, there are smaller alternatives such as Lelo Smart Wand.
Doxy die cast wand massager
Doxy
DIE CAST WAND MASSAGER
£150
The Air Pressure Stimulator
Are you a lover of intense (and we mean intense!) clitoral stimulation? Say hello to Lelo's Sona Sonic Clitoral Massager, a toy unlike anything else your orgasm has ever seen. 
Providing a completely new kind of no-contact stimulation, the Sona doesn't rely on vibrations like a conventional sex toy. Instead, it uses sonic waves to stimulate 75% more of the clitoris (even the internal parts you don’t see!) to deliver a stronger, longer-lasting, more satisfying climax.
It's not just the way that it's designed that's different though, it's how it feels too - we like to compare it to the suction and pulsing sensation of oral sex (though unlike oral sex, the intensity, pressure, and rhythm is completely controlled by you). 
If you love the idea of this sensation but prefer more gentle stimulation, the Lelo Sona 2 or Satisfyer Pro 2 might be more suited to you.
Lelo sona sonic clitoral massager
Lelo
SONA SONIC CLITORAL MASSAGER
£59
The Vulva Vibrator 

If this sounds like a vague category, allow us to explain... Unlike other vibes, Pom is built to be completely flexible. This means Pom can contort easily to nestle in the palm of your hand, conform to your hip movements, and snuggle close to your vulva, with the narrower end positioned at the tip of your clitoris and the wider end on your labia. Pom's body is nearly all silicone too, making its texture squishable enough that you could indent it with your finger—which gives it a next-level feel that’s almost as good in your hand as it is on the vulva.

Dame products pom flexible vibrator

Dame Products
POM FLEXIBLE VIBRATOR
£90
The Bullet Vibrator

Bullet-shaped vibrators are some of the most popular sex toys. Why? They’re easy to use, and therefore perfect for first-time explorers. Used externally, the rounded tip feels good for targeted stimulation, but you can also flatten the length of the vibrator against the vulva for a broader, less-intense sensation. Our favourite is the Gaia Eco Bullet - a simple (yet strong!) pocket rocket-style vibrator that also happens to be the world’s first environmentally friendly sex toy!

Blush novelties gaia biodegradable eco bullet vibrator

Blush Novelties
GAIA BIODEGRADABLE RECHARGEABLE ECO BULLET
£20
The Finger Vibrator

Finger vibrators, like Fin, are designed to be effortless, feel natural to wear, and not distract from the moment, making them perfect for partnered sex. Fin allows you to choose your own adventures... Tether on, tether off. Pointy side, squishy side. At your fingertips or near the palm. Above or below the hand. By changing how you wear and use Fin, you can get all the sensations you want the way you want.

Dame products fin finger vibrator

Dame Products
FIN FINGER VIBRATOR
£65
The Hands-Free Vibrator 

While Eva II's design may be confounding at first, it's actually ingenious... Small, light and simple to use, its flexible wings nestle under your outer labia for a secure, comfortable fit, so that Eva II can sit on top and stimulate the clitoris during partnered sex. The fact that Eva II stays put once it's nestled in place makes it the perfect choice for people who have limited mobility or don't like the feeling of vibrations on your hand.

Dame products eva ii hands-free vibrator

Dame Products
EVA II HANDS-FREE VIBRATOR 
£130
 

TOYS FOR INTERNAL STIMULATION

The G-Spot Vibrator
Located close to the root of your clitoris, your G-spot is stimulated internally, typically by applying persistent stroking pressure against the front vaginal wall after you’re already aroused. Uma is one of our favourites for this kind of stimulation. 
Perfectly contoured to complement your shape, Uma's beautifully curved body and gently rounded head means it's guaranteed to stimulate all your sweet spots without any effort. Uma's motor is also designed to a super low frequency to give the signature Je Joue oh-so-low rumbling vibrations. Obviously, all internal stimulators can also be used for targeted external stimulation; that’s not just their main selling point.
Je joue uma vibrator
Je Joue
UMA INTERNAL & EXTERNAL VIBRATOR
£75
The Wand

When you think about the quintessential sex toy - one that sex experts go crazy over - you’re probably thinking about a vibrator. Sure, vibrators can be magical, but there are so many more amazing sex toys beyond the trusty vibe. And this one is OH SO SPECIAL! If you have trouble finding your G-spot, or have never had a G-spot orgasm, the Pure Wand is definitely for you - the exaggerated curvature, weight (680g to be precise) and bulbous ends of the toy have earned it a cult-favourite status with quite the reputation for helping many people to experience G-spot pleasure

njoy pure stainless steel wand

njoy
PURE STAINLESS STEEL G-SPOT WAND
£120
 

TOYS FOR INTERNAL & EXTERNAL STIMULATION

The Dual-Action ('Rabbit') Vibrator

This riff on a classic is inspired by the caress of a lover’s fingers, designed to provide constant contact both internally and externally. Surges with a natural ‘come-hither’ motion are combined with ultra-powerful vibrations to massage your G-spot and stimulate your clitoris simultaneously. To ensure that Ina Wave complements all body shapes and hits all your pleasure points with perfect aim, the shaft is angled at 30 degrees and the clitoral stimulator is gently curved. 

Lelo ina wave come hither motion vibrator

Lelo
INA WAVE COME HITHER MOTION VIBRATOR
£150

The Rotating Couple's Vibrator
The first rotating and vibrating couple’s massager, Ida is one of the few toys that can be worn internally during penetrative sex and provides a completely new way to experience mutual pleasure with your partner. 
The silky-smooth flexible body of Ida bends to complement your body shape, sitting comfortably inside you in all your favourite positions. Rather than telling you how to use it, Ida lets you and your partner choose together, allowing for creativity and exploration to discover completely new sensations. 
Lelo Rotating & Vibrating Couple's Vibrator
Lelo
IDA ROTATING & VIBRATING COUPLE'S VIBRATOR
£145

TOOLS FOR PELVIC FLOOR STIMULATION

High-Tech Trainer

Elvie is a small, smooth, waterproof pod that you slip in just as you would a tampon. Combining cutting-edge technology, comfortable wear and real-time feedback, this ergonomic, discreet and portable tracker is designed with busy mums in mind, and when placed inside the vagina and connected via Bluetooth to a phone app, it will guide you through a series of fun five-minute workouts! 

 Elvie Pelvic Floor Trainer

Elvie
PELVIC FLOOR TRAINER & EXERCISE TRACKER
£165
 

TOOLS FOR PAIN & DISCOMFORT DURING PENETRATION

Intimate Wearable

Ohnut is an oh-so-cute intimate wearable of four stackable rings that allows you to adjust the depth of penetration when things get a little bit uncomfortable. Yes, that's right, it can help you manage, and even eliminate pain, discomfort and anxiety, during penetrative sex. Designed to feel just like skin. Ohnut is so comfortable (like a gentle hug) you and your partner will barely notice it's there. 

Ohnut intimate wearable

Ohnut
INTIMATE WEARABLE
£50
 

LUBRICANTS & OILS

 Water-Based Lubricant
Water-based lubes are what you want to use with rubber latex, condoms and silicone toys (oils can compromise the efficacy and integrity of latex condoms and can degrade some sex toys over time). As well as being specially formulated to enhance the enjoyment of sexual activities, Lelo's Personal Moisturiser & Lubricant can be used as a subtle intimate moisturiser and to give deep, sensuous full-body massages, melting into your skin. Free from glycerine and parabens, as well as being unscented, pH-balanced and fortified with Aloe Vera, known to heal and nourish the skin, it can also be used as part of your dry skin routine, making discomfort due to dryness a thing of the past.
Lelo personal moisturiser & lubricant
Lelo
PERSONAL MOISTURISER & LUBRICANT
£20
Silicone-Based Lubricant

Überlube is a silicone-based, natural lubricant that has a simple four ingredient formula fortified with Vitamin E, nourishing and hydrating any surface that it’s applied to. It's silky-smooth texture creates enhanced sensation while reducing friction, allowing you to feel all the things you want to feel. Body-safe, never sticky, weightless, and super long-lasting, Überlube never steals the show or gets in the way. In fact, you'll even find yourself adding it to your hair to tame, detangle, smooth, and add extra shine, or rubbing on your body before exercising to prevent chafing!

Uberlube luxury silicone lubricant

Überlube
LUXURY SILICONE LUBRICANT
£24
Pubic Skin & Hair Oil
Fur products take great care of your hair and the skin that surrounds it, whether you choose to wax, shave, trim, laser, or go au naturale. Designed with pubic hair and skin in mind (but can be used on underarms, chest, legs and face… anywhere hair meets skin!) using the brand’s unique blend of lightweight oils to gently soften hair and clear pores for fewer ingrowns and healthier skin, Fur Oil has become a cult-classic for a reason.
Fur oil
Fur
FUR OIL
£46
Massage Candle

Here’s a remarkable invention... A candle that doubles as a luxurious treatment for your skin. Light the candle and the blend of all-natural soy wax, shea butter and apricot kernel oil melts into an oil that leaves skin moisturised, nourished, and soft. (You can pour the melted candle directly onto skin—it’s warm and soothing.)

Lelo flickering touch massage candle

Lelo
FLICKERING TOUCH MASSAGE CANDLE
£24
 

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