If you feel like you’re lacking in sex-confidence, you’re not alone. And, just for the record, there’s nothing wrong with you for feeling that way. There’s a whole host of valid reasons for being shy in the bedroom, including culture, trauma, messages from family, comments from past partners, and body insecurities. All of these things leave you with annoying negative thoughts that pop into your head at the worst moments!
But, you can change this reality - and feel confident in your body, claim your pleasure, and even ask for what you want in bed. Here are 9 of intimacy coach Lisa Welsh's favourite ways to boost confidence in the boudoir.
"The issue is that, if you're performing rather than being open about the pleasure that you feel, your partner will be reading your body language wrong and you could continue to have sex in this way. This isn’t necessarily your partner’s fault. I know this because I spent a lifetime doing this and, as a result, no matter how much effort my partners would put into my pleasure, it felt impossible to fully relax into an orgasmic state of mind."
Read more about Katie's journey on giving herself permission to feel pleasure, and how she learnt to communicate better about sex, masturbation and pleasure.
Whether you want to stick it to your cramps, combat hormone-induced mood swings, or go up against your PMS-induced stress, here are Ohne's top tips for working with your menstrual cycle to get the most out of your sex life. Added bonus? They’re giving you a sex toy recommendation for each stage of the cycle, so you can get frisky in style whether you’re flying solo or partnered up.
"I was ready to feel beautiful, even if I didn’t think that I was beautiful. This shift in mindset led me to my first solo-sex orgasm which tore my world apart in the best way and in the midst of the chaos I was able to find ‘Body’, love her and reconnect. It wasn’t until this reconnection took place that I realised how deeply important our relationship with our body is when it comes to experiencing pleasure. Without that initial surrender to something uncomfortable, ‘Body’ and I would still be strangers."
Read more about Katie's personal journey on how she re-gained the relationship with her body in spite of societies unattainable ideology for female bodies.